In This House We Make Noise, We Say “I’m Sorry” And We Hug

In this house we make noise, we say “I’m sorry”, we give hugs and second chances. Because being a family is allowing the sound of life to surround us and tune the music of our daily scores,  where there is respect and, above all, sensitivity to the needs of all its members.

One thing we all know is that no house can compare to another. Each family is structured based on its own and exclusive communication dynamics and codes, which do not always guarantee the happiness of all the protagonists. It’s a really complex thing.

There are very large houses in which, in addition to luxury, loneliness and unhappiness can inhabit. But there are also small houses where only the excitement of the wise joy of reciprocity reigns, of making what is difficult easy. To accept the differences. Because in the end, the only wealth is precisely this: being united and knowing that the most valuable thing is not what we have, but who we have by our side.

We invite you to reflect on this.

The elements that make the psychology of a house

A house is a miniature universe, a reflection of society under the microscope. What happens between these four walls and in this environment is a tremendously powerful combination where values, behaviors and emotions impact each of the residents of this family in a certain way.

Now, experts in environmental psychology say that every environment is made up of three basic and fundamental elements, which are also seen in any home.

• Material factors are the physical elements that give something to a home, which for Feng Shui, for example, is very important. According to this philosophical and aesthetic approach, the harmonious arrangement of space has a certain influence on people’s emotions. This is something we’ve all certainly noticed at one time or another.
• The personal aspects, in turn, are determined by the interrelationships of the people who live in this space, their habits and their way of establishing bonds with each other.
• Mental factors are, without a doubt, the most relevant processes in family dynamics. This is where the paradigms, beliefs, values, personality style and conditioning that each member of a family establish are found.

A house, therefore, is a closed space where all its “tenants” spread their invisible wings of influence in their private nests, where the most absolute well-being or, on the other hand, the most complex unhappiness depending on these mental processes can reign.

We would like to explain how the most dignified and enriching homes are constituted, those with their own music and where, despite there being very high and very low notes in their life scores, the music is always equally beautiful.

a wise home of emotions

According to interesting research taken from the book “ Emotional Contagion ”, by Elaine Haltfield, a home is not only the place where emotions are most contagious: emotional awareness is what allows you to grow as a family, nurturing needs, erasing fears and creating exceptional harmony where everyone is indispensable.

We know it’s not easy to build a home, because a house is not just walls and a roof, a house is like a delicate and magically handcrafted patchwork quilt where every piece of fabric is unique and where all together create a wonderful figure.

Let us now see what characteristics define these wise homes of emotions.

Characteristics of the enriching family

The emotionally wise and enriching family knows, first of all, that the important thing is not always to be together. There are no unconscious or conscious pressures to control each limb to take its place in the “nest”, in that choking bubble where growth and freedom are vetoed.

• In the wise house it is not important to be together because the essential is to be united.
• The enriching family transmits positive emotions through looks that connect and understand each other. There are no blackmail viruses of all or nothing, “because I said it” or “if you do it, it’s because you don’t love me”.
• The light from open windows, empathetic hearts and voices used to make noise, to express themselves freely, with authenticity, without vetoes or fears dwell in the intelligent and happy house.
• In a healthy home, differences are accepted, there are no sanctions for different points of view, everyone has their personal spaces to grow in dignity and common spaces to share the dignified and happy bond of the family that loves each other and likes to share time together.

A house where our favorite people live together, those we call family because they knew how to create a home from the heart, through the purest and noblest affection. Because in the end, it’s these people you keep laughing with every day, the ones who ease your tears and the ones who make life always worth it.