I Like People Who Know How To Be Sunshine When Life Is Cloudy
There are people who know how to be by our side when we need it most. That is, there are people who know how to be the sun at times when the sky is cloudy and life seems caught in a storm that doesn’t want to let us out.
Because there are special people who recognize in themselves the beauty of a smile that comes out of the soul, that does not deceive and that is fair and serene with themselves and with the world. A rare but real species.
Obviously, like everyone, these people who “know how to be sunny” also make mistakes and have flaws, but what stands out is their ability to light up with a smile a day clouded with bad thoughts and bad experiences. This article is for them.
The importance of empathic listening
Empathic or active listening is practiced by people who are naturally “sun in days of darkness”. Through it, one hears and captures the emotional and personal message that those who have a difficult day want to convey.
A person who practices empathic listening pays attention to the other with the intention of understanding feelings and understanding the point of view of those who interpret the bad day they are living. Because only in this way can the frame of reference be understood from the person who experiences the situation.
Thus, the brain, which leaves nothing to the mercy, assumes this interest of the other person as something sincere and affectionate, which contributes to the release of substances such as serotonin, dopamine and oxytocin, which encourage the establishment of the emotional bond .
Patient hearts that listen to us and make the sun shine
As we discussed on another occasion, sad eyes need to be offered fewer words and more hugs. Because when we have a bad day, we tend to appreciate more that a patient heart listens to us and not so much that brilliant minds speak to us.
That is, it is a way of allowing emotion and understanding it, leaving aside the denial of it and, therefore, abandoning the terrain of incomprehension and uncertainty of feeling alone at a time when it is necessary to have a patient and unconditional company.
Therefore, having someone by your side who is an expert in “being sunny” on dark days allows you to drive your vehicle along the main road instead of a bad secondary road, which forces you to stop 20 times to reach the destination of well-being. .
Humility, simplicity and kindness are three fundamental pillars that help us to “be sun” in times when we are immersed in oceans of confusion and problems. Because to be really big, you have to be beside the people and not above.
