People Who Have No Life Often Question Others’

There are people who have a habit of valuing the lives, achievements and decisions of others. This happens despite the fact that no one has asked them for their opinion, and their comments often harbor less than good intentions.

Even knowing that this happens and being able to differentiate malicious criticism from good comments, it is not very easy to prevent them from affecting us in some way. When criticism and contempt are continuous, it “hurts” our self-esteem.

In this sense, there are times when we can help them become aware that they are making many mistakes by getting into other people’s lives, but other times we need to step back to protect our own emotional health.

What other people think of you is their reality, not yours

Chances are, at some point, the opinions and judgments of others have made you question your reality. Perhaps you thought that you lived with your eyes closed and that you were actually not at all aware of the image you projected in and out of yourself.

However, not everything is bad, as we can use these types of doubts to reassure ourselves. Remember that others may know your name but not your history, they didn’t live in your skin, or wear your shoes.

Consider that if you yourself feel that you are unaware of yourself at times, others may not have reached a place where even you have been. So be aware that your words only obey an illusory reality that your mind has created.

Pass other people’s judgments through your own filters

We are the ones who validate the words and attitudes of others. So it’s important that we filter out information that is really constructive and separate it from what is destructive.

So, passing the filters of truth, goodness and need, we will be left with what truly deserves joy and not pity. Only when we stop living what others expect or think of us can we feel good.

surround yourself with good people

Surround yourself with those people who add and avoid those who subtract. Do not allow them to negate you with criticism, comments or opinions that are not intended to help you. Get rid of those words that are intended to nullify your abilities or to truncate your dreams and aspirations.

Approach those sincere looking people, as they are the ones who will understand and respect who you are and what you feel. The people you can lean on are the ones who offer you peace without fuss, distortions, and ulterior motives.

In short, try to disregard the malevolent irony and work to build a place in your world that is far from the emotional blackmail, destruction and toxicity that characterize certain people and environments.