Do You Know The 5 Risks Of A Couple’s Emotional Dependency?
One of the most self-destructive emotional traits that exists is emotional dependence on a partner, friend, or family member.
When we are emotionally dependent, we lose our self-esteem, the treasure that each of us has and that makes us unique and special. Therefore, today I bring 5 traits that cause emotional dependence on one of the most important people in our lives, our partner.
The identification and knowledge of each one of them will help you to recover your self-esteem, chart your own course and embellish your own life, without the need to leave it in the hands of others. With that, you’ll feel stronger, better, and you’ll get what you deserve, which is to be free.
What are the risks of a couple’s emotional dependency?
Loss of self-esteem. As we were commenting earlier, emotional dependence leads to the loss of our personal self-esteem and, which is the same thing, to self-effacement. People who suffer from emotional dependence usually have severe self-esteem issues.
When this happens within our love relationship, we run the risk of gradually losing the person we love because we are not aware of this situation or do not have the tools to overcome it.
Generates loss of identity. An emotionally dependent person is probably living in a world where their partner is at the center of everything. All your actions, all your desires and actions will be based on what the other believes. This situation transforms us into an extension of our partner, losing our identity, the personality that characterizes us, and generating total dependence.
In this way, we can run the risk of being physically and psychologically abused. When this happens, it is recommended to seek professional help through therapy, which can help us to overcome and avoid the situation.
Physical and psychological abuse. At some point, the partner can perceive the emotional dependence that he or she is exerting on the other. This situation can make him act under a dominant role, easily taking advantage of this state and situation.
This profile is very common in couples where emotional dependence on one of the parties is present.
People who are not emotionally dependent feel free, which can make them feel able to exert pressure, lie, be hostile, disrespectful and even take advantage of their dominant position physically, materially or psychologically.
The person who performs the abuse knows that the dependent will probably not complain and will bear everything without exerting counterforce. If you happen to endure physical abuse, infidelities and humiliation, it is necessary and important to turn to a professional with whom you feel comfortable to do personal work.
Isolation and loss of social skills. We are in such an unpleasant and exhausting situation that we are internally consumed to great degrees. Not feeling free and running out of strength. Dependence, little by little, will make us isolate ourselves from our social environment, friends and family. All this of their own volition, since for a dependent person their partner is their world.
This isolation also causes the loss and wasting of personal social skills. Isolating ourselves from our surroundings and our reality invites us to be blind to our own lives, unconsciously increasing emotional dependence.
Sudden changes of mood. Emotional dependence is a psychological disorder manifested in many different ways. The dependent person suffers from “dysphoric mood”, that is, sudden changes in mood during their daily lives.
Suffering from this emotional state can lead to depression, stress and anxiety. All of this will bring, internally, a state of guilt, a feeling of emptiness, jealousy on great levels and, most importantly, fear. These symptoms can be alleviated with the presence of your partner and, paradoxically, they are caused by his absence.
