Good People’s Hearts Are Full Of Pent-up Tears
In the hearts of good people there is no feeling of sadness. They fight for others, never say no and are the best support in any time of need. However, when they cry, they do so in secret because they cannot go on any longer, because they are too tired of being strong and their souls need those tears to get better.
This type of emotionally charged situation is very common in people who are used to giving their all for those around them. We call these people “good people” and, although we are all able to separate what is good and what is bad very well, there are certain personalities that are much more apt to generate well-being for others. Thus, these people are more likely to be overwhelmed, to be disappointed and to suffer emotionally.
Goethe, the poet, playwright and novelist, therefore great specialist in human emotions, used to say that those who never finished a meal and then closed up and somewhere to cry never tasted the authentic taste of life. People cry for many and different reasons, but some people just do it because they’re tired of looking like they can do anything. Which is invincible.
Let’s delve into this aspect.
Why do good people cry in secret
the psychology of tears
The tears: biology, psychology and catharsis
We can observe and understand tears from different perspectives:
- According to biology, there would actually be a reason why women find it easier to cry. The answer lies in testosterone, which in the case of men would act as an inhibitor of crying, while the hormone prolactin, much higher in women, facilitates the release of tears.
- For many psychologists, tears help us to have a better understanding of our inner world and our needs. This emotional expression acts first as a tranquilizer, then allows us to see with a more adequate mental clarity our needs that are not being met, which undoubtedly require a change in our way of being.
- The cathartic power of tears can be of greater benefit if we resort to good crying. According to experts, the emotional tears released during this process contain much more protein and thus have a healing power in the person’s body.
To conclude, good people often cry in hiding because that way they get greater comfort and intimacy so they can be themselves without an armor, without a breastplate that hides what’s inside. Armor is always heavy and, although a good cry soothes and undoes bitterness and disappointment, it never hurts to prioritize yourself from time to time and set limits to better serve the heart that, far from being made of stone, is made of flesh , dreams and salty tears.
