I Find My Courage When I Allow Myself To Feel
Our nature allows us to feel and therefore we strive to build walls around us to hide our deeper ‘I’: they do not allow us to feel emotions, feelings and every experience as it is. When we feel fragile and vulnerable, we turn to reason and withdraw from our being.
We’ve been building these walls since we were children, when in many situations we didn’t feel worthy of affection. In the face of fears and emotional pain, we close ourselves off, trying to adapt to a world that terrifies us, considering that it is full of dangers.
We learn that when we demonstrate our weaknesses and difficulties, we end up suffering a lot. We believe that “opening up” to new experiences can bring us sadness, anguish, failures, love disappointments and disappointments. However, closing yourself to “not feel” is not the solution.
What does it mean to “close” to what we feel
Through the walls we build around us we learn a repertoire of excuses to hide who we are. We learn automatisms, adapting to existing prejudices and stereotypes, seeking to adapt to our environment. We believe that there is a way of being and acting that is normal, and we have to get as close to it as we can.
The belief that there is a proper way to behave is what keeps us from being who we really are. Therefore, we are constantly struggling with our feelings, with what we want, with what motivates us and what excites us. We spend a lot of energy not acknowledging our feelings.
We close ourselves in such a way that we become insensitive to injustice and the people we love. We act automatically and totally lose the essence of our being, the affection and kindness.
allow yourself to feel
As we’ve already seen, there is a reason not to allow yourself to feel. You’ve tried it in many situations, haven’t you? You struggled with yourself to become insensitive to something you didn’t want to experience. Trying to avoid pain is what causes us to remain in pain.
The greatest strength that resides within us is, without a doubt, that of letting ourselves feel and experience. We don’t want to feel, we’re afraid and we get stuck or lost in this state, we struggle with our own feelings.
It is necessary to experience unpleasant situations, as they are part of our growth. Maturity and happiness develop through pain, anguish and sadness. We learn from experiences, whether they are pleasant or not. In this way, we value what is good and beneficial in our lives.
The strength lies in the vulnerability
We often confuse vulnerability with weakness. Vulnerability is part of letting ourselves feel what we need, of being honest and accepting that there are many things that affect us, and that we are not fragile for that.
When we accept our vulnerability, we “open up” to experience the feelings and emotions that trigger interactions with others. It’s a natural state, so why do we hide under a mask that doesn’t represent us and makes us unhappy? Get out of this hiding place, decide to face the world and show yourself as you really are.
The only way to self-knowledge and personal growth is to show ourselves with our vulnerabilities. For this, it takes a lot of courage, authenticity, maturity and great inner strength. When you show yourself in this natural way, you get the same response from your environment: sincere bonds based on love, not on appearances.
