One Who Surrenders Completely Never Returns An Integer
When your partner breaks up, you have the feeling that you have left something with that person that you won’t get back; when a family member or friend dies, you feel that nothing will ever be the same because you have lost something very important. Whoever gives in completely never returns whole.
If you’ve really loved someone for real, you know that when that person is no longer in your life, it takes a part of you, a small piece of your heart disappears forever, and doesn’t return, it’s an empty feeling that only time in helps to fill.
How hard is it to say goodbye when you want to say “stay with me”
We are emotional beings by nature, and it is very difficult to prevent a complicated situation from causing an emotion. However, it is possible to manage this emotion in terms of duration and intensity through emotional intelligence.
An emotionally intelligent person knows their strengths and abilities, and has learned to listen and understand others with empathy. For this reason, although he feels sad for the loss, he has confidence in the future and knows that, in time, everything will be overcome.
When a loved one dies, we can do nothing but accept that loss. When there is a couple breakup, although it is a different situation, it is also important to accept the situation, be realistic and look for ways to manage the emotion that invades us.
delivery and attachment
In your relationships with friends, family or couple, there should be a “delivery limit” to avoid emotional attachment situations. Walter Riso, in his book “Detaching without anesthesia”, argues that the creation of a dependent relationship means the surrender of the soul in exchange for a false pleasure and security.
Laughter defines attachment as an obsessive relationship with an object, idea or person based on four false beliefs, which are as follows: it is permanent, it will make you happy, it will provide security and it will give meaning to your life.
If you are in a relationship of this type, you will never be prepared for the loss and will not accept that the other person is gone, that the relationship ends or the situation changes. Loss will make you feel empty and without objective direction in life.
Attachment corrupts, makes you unhappy, and prevents you from having respect for yourself and your values. You fear the loss of your partner and you lose joy because you have invested all your resources and energy in someone else, putting aside your life and what you really enjoy doing.
The key is to learn to let go
Throughout your life, your ability to give and be generous is a part of who you are as a human being. However, it is also necessary to learn to deal with the tools necessary to manage these losses with integrity and accept that change is part of life.
Saying goodbye to a person, a job, a relationship is a situation we face in our daily lives and we must face these moments with courage and intelligence. This skill is necessary to avoid excessive suffering or a sense of loss that negatively affects us.
Let the pain go; there are still many people who are ashamed to cry in public and repress their feelings and words. To let go, however, it is important to let go of the pain, to cry whatever is necessary, but without isolating yourself. Talk to your friends, tell them how you feel, and listen to their advice.
Focus on yourself. For once in your life be a little selfish and take the time to look inside yourself without feeling guilty. What do you like? What do you want to do? Think about your needs and what’s really important to you. “Letting go” that person or situation will make you more confident and secure.
Take care of yourself. Focus on yourself and do what you love. If you want to take a trip, now is the right time. That way, you’ll see the situation from another perspective, you can disconnect and see things differently. Think that new situations always bring new elements and we always gain something: freedom, learning, ability to overcome, etc.
