The Art Of Unhappiness
We already know, happiness is a very diffuse concept, as well as a complex one. We could speak of aspiration, of something we achieve briefly and which, in an instant, slightly loses its radiance, its intensity. However, the beauty of small things remains, of a simple balance with which we feel good, where you can appreciate everything that surrounds us, accompanies and defines us.
Being aware of this “humble” happiness may have a gift that not everyone has. Let’s take an example: according to Forbes magazine, most of the richest people on our planet are unhappy.
This shows us two things that perhaps already know: the happiness can not be bought with a check for infinite zeros, and the art of unhappiness is perhaps in the daily schedule of all social scales. Even on the millionaires’ agenda.
The art of generating unhappiness
On some occasions, we worry too much about aspects that are not important, about things that either have no solution or that have no reason to happen. We all know some people who tend to anticipate things: “ We have to do this because that can happen” , obsessive ideas where there is, perhaps, a continuous insecurity that makes them unhappy and contaminates those around them.
Fear of failure, fear of loneliness… all this pushes us sometimes to do things that further complicate our reality, our seemingly simple everyday life and where there are no serious problems.
The art of unhappiness sometimes presents behaviors that are not easily recognized. Let’s look at some examples:
– Your present moment is good, there is no difficulty and no apparent problem. However, you start to become obsessed with the future, with the uncertain. Because it’s clear… tranquility doesn’t last long.
– If there’s something in life that’s not going well, no matter how small… everything gets complicated. Did you fight with anyone? Had a bad day at work? That’s enough to have a bad week and extend that negativity to all the planes of your life.
– The important thing is not to be alone. That way you’ll be able to withstand whatever it is and with whoever it is so as not to face loneliness.
– If you have reached a goal that you had set yourself and you are an expert in the art of unhappiness, you will certainly not take advantage of it. It is possible that you will set an objective that is even more difficult and whose complication causes you even more frustration.
– If someone criticizes you, even if it is constructive, you will certainly not accept it. Because no one does anything for the good, most people have a double intention… and that’s never a good one.
The absence of vital meaning
The examples given above demonstrate large dimensional characteristics that define people who are unable to appreciate the happiness or goodness of things and people around them: envy, persecution mania, inability to take responsibility, exaggerated perfectionism, rationalization excessive, negativity, low self-esteem, etc. In essence, it is the absence of vital meaning.
It is not necessary to follow a religion or practice a specific type of philosophy to realize that our lives must have meaning. A meaning for ourselves. The people around us are not a threat, no one is waiting around a corner to harm us.
There is also no need to become obsessed with what will happen on the day or make the mistake of over-rationalizing. The important thing is to maintain a balance, use logic… knowing how to trust.
The art of NOT being unhappy requires that we learn to trust. It is impossible to control every aspect of our lives to prevent certain things from happening. Happiness is not a goal, it is a state, an emotion. Happiness is in everyday life, now and in our ability to know how to cultivate it in the most humble way possible.
